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Do I invite my officiant to the reception?

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 This is a common question from many  of our brides that come to us for assistance with planning their wedding……

We think this question has many answers……

1. Yes, they are marrying you because you have attended the church since you were a child and will hurt their feelings if you do not extend the invitation to have them celebrate after the actual ceremony…..

2. Yes, because after all, who is going to do the blessing before dinner at the reception?

3. Yes, because they have traveled possibly quite a distance to be there and the ceremony lasted for 15 minutes and now you expect them to leave and go home while everybody else gets to stay and have a meal and celebrate…..

4. Yes, because it is just a courtesy and if they are not close friends of the family. 90% of the time , they will decline gracefully…..

5. No, You have hired them to do a job and they did the job…..

Do you invite your officiant to the reception

Would Love to hear feedback on your opinions on this subject….

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Rev. Mark @ A Charmed EventNovember 13, 2009 at 7:08 amReply

I think #4 is the perfect answer, but be prepared just in case they do say yes!

My best,
Rev. Mark

Charity @ A Charmed EventApril 5, 2012 at 4:01 pmReply

How funny that I just replied to this on Facebook and I come here to see that Mark replied to the original post back in 2009!! Wow. 🙂

What I wrote on FB today…
As you know, my husband and I have been officiating weddings for almost eight years and although we have received many invitations to receptions, we make it a rule to not attend unless we have a personal connection to the bride and groom {family, close friends, co-workers etc.}

And though we would appreciate the gesture, I would never take a “take home plate” of food from a wedding. When we are hired to officiate, we understand that we are not guests at the event and although we expect to be treated with courtesy, we do not expect to receive the same special treatment or goodies that a guest would.

Special MomentsApril 5, 2012 at 4:09 pmReply

Thanks for the comment and the great feedback !
you have made some great points and we appreciate it=)