Will you love, honor, and obey, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or worse, forsaking all others, til death do you part”?
I am sure that everyone recognizes the above excerpt as being the traditional wedding vows that you and your fiancé say when getting married. There are a number of variations of the wedding vows, one being the omission of the word obey and another one being replacing the word love with the word cherish.
Today, many people stick to using the traditional wedding vows for their ceremony, but there are also many people who choose to use non traditional vows instead. Some people write their own vows telling each other just how much they love each other, more sentimental vows. Other people recite their favorite poem or excerpt from some other favorite quote to use as their wedding vows. And, some people offer up a short but simple promise to be the best spouse they can be as their wedding vows.
When planning a wedding most people tend to forget about the wedding vows and whether they should be traditional or non traditional. They are much more concerned about decorating the church, picking the perfect music selections, and making sure that everyone is where they are supposed to be when they are supposed to be there. I believe that the wedding vows are probably the most important part of the entire wedding ceremony and more emphasis should be placed on the vows. After all, the wedding vows are the couple’s promise to each other and to their family and friends to love each other no matter what happens in their life. The wedding vows symbolize the strength of the couple’s commitment to making this marriage work.
When you begin to make the plans for your wedding day, the most important day of your life, start by discussing whether you both want the traditional wedding vows or non traditional wedding vows to be a part of your ceremony. If you decide to choose non traditional vows, then you will need to allow plenty of time to decide exactly what each of you wants to say to the other. You will need to decide whether you want to read the vows you write or whether you want to try and memorize them. Writing them down might be the best option because if you choose to memorize them, you might end up forgetting them due to nerves. If you do choose to write them down then you will need to make sure you keep them in a safe place so you won’t lose them and have to try to make up new vows.